Published on October 22nd, 2013 | by Rayne11
Breastfeeding in public – why mothers shouldn’t cover up
The day has come! When a childfree by choice person calls bullshit on the childfree communities crap.
It’s about fucking time.
There are a few things about some parents I dislike as a childfree by choice person. I dislike insecure parents who troll CF blogs and assert the CF people are selfish. I dislike parents who are insecure about their choices, who try to validate their life choice by attempting to convince you (using bingos) to make the same choice as them – often with little regard to your life circumstances or wants and needs. I also dislike martyring parents with an overinflated sense of entitlement who act like the fact they have bred makes them the epitome of selflessness. I dislike parents who use their children as weapons or as a way to get what they want or abuse their children.
If you take away the very few parents who are jerks – the rest are okay.
There are also things about the childfree community that I vehemently disagree with. There seems to be a consensus within the community that somehow breastfeeding in public is a bad thing and should NEVER EVER EVER be done. I dislike this attitude especially since it seems to stem from the simple fact that it is a mother doing a thing with their child.
Recently a discussion was started on a forum around breastfeeding in public and the consensus was “No, it shouldn’t be done” but for the most stupidest reasons.
Let’s laugh at some highlights, shall we?
“As I’ve posted on the topic before…I fucking HATE it, unless it’s covered up. I don’t want to see any stringy tit-milk strands. It’s gross. I feel that way about anyone with poor eating manners (like those endless vids of kids smeared with food).”
Maybe, just maybe – turn your head away. Your head isn’t in a vice grip where it can’t move. Honestly I don’t like hairy legs but people have them and they are allowed to have them. So I turn my head away and allow them to be hairy.
And some people think it should be covered up because breasts have nerves endings:
“And I thought it was an errogenous zone too, designed for pleasure (I’m reminded of Arcane Rose’s sig line). Breasts aren’t just for feeding babies they can and often do form part of the sexuality of the individual, so this argument that says ‘they’re just feedbags’ is simplistic. They are but they are so much more as well and the public breastfeeding argument always ignores that to suit it’s own purpose. To me it’s like saying ‘well a c0ck is just for peeing through, or is just a delivery mechanism for sperm’ it ignores a whole cultural, sexual and private context.”
What a revelation, breasts have nerve endings on them that make them feel good when they are being sucked on. There is a large difference between your newborn sucking on a nipple to get food and your partner sucking on your nipple in private as a form of foreplay. What a load of bullshit. Erogenous zones don’t exist as a constant, they’re a variable. Not everyone gets sexually stimulation from their breasts. Sexual arousal is contextual. Feeding your child is not foreplay. By your logic, eyelids aren’t purely designed to keep dirt out of our eyes because some people get sexually aroused by them getting kissed. Just because a body part helps you get sexually stimulated doesn’t mean it happens all the time. I love getting my arse slapped, doesn’t mean I get sexually aroused when random fuckwits do it in public.
“I think I’d prefer people shagging in public to someone whipping it out. I don’t care as long as I don’t have to see/smell/hear it as I might vomit on public and really all I want is for people to kep their fluids to themselves.”
Again, turn your fucking head away. The undeserved sense of entitlement hurts my sense of decorum around not being a wankjob to other people. Basically what the people on the thread were saying that they would rather a kid be covered up while it’s feeding or even regulated to a parents room because they can’t handle their emotions when they see someone breastfeeding. From what I understand from some of the replies on the forum thread is “I find breastfeeding gross so instead of doing the adult thing and looking away, I want to inconvenience another’s life so I don’t have to deal with my feelings of grossness”?
Why should a breastfeeding mother cover up? It’s a breast, it’s not like anyone’s shagging in public. A kid is feeding. Anyone who is weirded out by a breast seriously needs to re-evaluate their lives. It’s a piece of flesh purely designed to feed a child with the added bonus of aiding sexual stimulation in an intimate setting, an intimate setting that generally isn’t a public place with hundreds of people around. We don’t ask any other human being to throw a towel over their head while eating. Look away, turn around and/or walk away. Be an adult and do the mature thing and remove yourself from the situation. Don’t inconvenience others who aren’t hurting anyone because you didn’t think to walk away and look elsewhere.
If I were to hazardous a guess, I would guess that not all breatfeeding mothers will get sexually stimulated by a feeding child. Not all breastfeeding mothers are going to do crazy shit like masturbate while breastfeeding either.
Not surprisingly, the moderators issued me with a warning for my comments about growing the fuck up and doing the mature thing and walking away from a situation that makes you uncomfortable. It’s a sad state of hypocrisy when the childfree community can bitch all day about parents but suspend one of their own when they are called out on their bullshit. Granted I probably could have said it a little nicer but sometimes people need a virtual slap around the back of the head.
So mothers, please continue to feed your children in public. Please don’t regulate yourself to a mothers room because a person can’t handle the fact you have boob out in public.
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