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Expanding on why men should be able to walk away
I’m going to expand on yesterdays post. (Note for the individuals calling me a woman hating man, I’m not. I’m an idiot hating, inequality loathing lesbian who thinks if something is good for women, it should be equally as good for men). For all those people who want to make this issue more than what it is, this issue is about a persons right to choice and autonomy over one’s life. That’s it.
Anti-abortionists tell us that abortion is wrong and if women didn’t want the responsibility of a child, than they shouldn’t have sex. Every prolifer at one point or another has heard that arguement.
Why is it that the prochoicers will tell abortionists to get fucked when they say “Don’t want responsibility, don’t have sex” but are the first people to say that to a guy who wants to walk away from a pregnancy or child rearing sitaution by choice?
Abortion, adoption and a guy walking away from a pregancy are all the same thing – removing yourself from the situation, the situation of pregnancy or raising a child. If a woman gets that choice, than a guy should as well. You are removing yourself from the situation of being pregnant or raising a child. You are removing that fetus or child from your life. It’s not in your life anymore. The means or method in which you removed it from your life is irrelevent.
Why aren’t the situations precieved to be exactly the same? Because the woman is a woman? Because she gets some sort of special status because the fetus is growing inside her? If a pregnancy is the responsibility of both parties and a guy walks away from the responsibility of raising a child than an abortion or adoption is no different. The woman has made the choice to not have the fetus or child is her life and is walking away from her respoinsibility to raise a child. Stop romantising abortion and adoption as something more than it is. Abortion and adoption is a woman’s choice to remove the fetus or her child from her life for whatever reason she has for it but why can’t a guy remove the fetus or kid from his life?
If I were to say that a guy having to pay child support for the next 18 years was the consquence of a woman wanting to raise the child – then most people would agree with me. If I were to say that a woman having to be a single mother for the next 18 years was the consquence of a man choosing to walk away and her choosing to raise the child – I’d be throughly disagreed with and probably told to go get fucked.
Of course, the woman has the choice to take the guy to court for child support if she wants because that’s her choice.
If a woman wants to not abort and not adopt and the guy walks away, single motherhood is the consequence of her decision to not get an abortion or adopt. What is it with everyone going “but if the man leaves the woman than the woman will be high and dry and be a single parent” – yes, yes she will because that’s the consquence of her decision to keep the kid. Don’t you think a mother giving up their kid for adoption is leaving the kid high and dry in the foster system for 18 years if they don’t get adopted? Nobody ever thinks of that because “it’s the woman’s choice to do that to their child” and people will support her through it.
Howeve if a man decides to leave the mother and child, he’s an arsehole yet women who leave the kid in foster care aren’t? What if the guy isn’t ready for fatherhood? What if he can’t finanicial provide for either of them? What if he has some sort of mental illness and can’t provide or emotionally/mentally handle fatherhood? These are all reasons women give for having an abortion or adopting.
Why are the reasons for woman having an abortion and removing the fetus from their lives considered valid but if a man has the same reasoning, it’s not considered valid?
1. If a woman wants to abort but the guy wants to keep the kid, he can’t because it’s the mothers choice to do what she wants with her body.
2. If a woman wants to adopt out and the guy wants to keep the kid, he has that option.
3. But if a woman wants to keep the kid and the man doesn’t, he can’t have that option? Even though a woman can have the option of abortion or adoption to remove the kid from her life?
Why is it that people can be prochoice for woman simply because it’s their body even though they helped create the fetus but they are antichoice for men?
What’s good for one party should be good for the other regardless of the consquences because that’s what equality is all about.
All choices have consquences and no matter what choice is made, it will impact on another person. The difference is that the woman can choose to remove herself from the situation, there are people who will support her, a guy chooses to remove himself from the same situation and he’s considered an arsehole.
Don’t sit there and tell me that, that isn’t unequal.