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Pro-choice for women? Why not be pro-choice for men as well?
It’s interesting to note that some people who are pro-choice for women, seem to be anti-choice for men. This baffles me. I’ve mistakening assumed that if a person was pro-choice for women, then they would also be pro-choice for men.
This is obviously not the case so I’ve found out.
I’m pro-abortion. I’m pro-abortion in the sense that if a woman has made a choice about not wanting to go through with a pregnancy, she should have the right to choose an abortion. Most anti-choicers will misinterpret pro-abortion as “attempting to force every woman to have an abortion” which simply isn’t the case. We just simply believe is should be another option for women.
Just as walking away from a pregnant woman should be for men.
Oh stop looking so horrified.
Unless child rearing or getting pregnant is spoken about before hand, when a couple decides to have sex, they consent to sex and sex only. Going along with a pregnancy or supporting a pregnancy is not part of the deal. Pregnancy is a byproduct of sex between a man and woman, a byproduct that doesn’t have to be followed through on.
So if you’re pro-choice for woman, why wouldn’t you be pro-choice for men?
I look at it this way, if in some alternate universe, I was hetereosexual and wanted to have sex with a guy and he wanted to have sex with me – we’ve both consented to have sex. If I find out later that I got pregnant from having sex with that guy, we haven’t consented to be pregnant or support a pregnancy. If I make the choice about my body to not go through with the pregnancy – I should be able to make that choice and if they guy makes the choice to walk away from a pregnancy he didn’t sign up for – why should he be forced to pay thousands of dollars in supporting a child he doesn’t want? That’s as bad as attempting to force a woman through pregnancy by denying her access to an abortion.
Note: If the guy wants to keep the kid, it’s a different story. It would be my body and no-one but me can choose what to do with it. If he wants a kid and I don’t – either he’s going to have to go elsewhere or sign a fuckload of legal documents to say that he is going to be the sole supporter of the child and he is going to take sole custody.
I hate to inform you but men have rights and choices as well and not wanting to raise a kid should be one of them.