Pro-choice

Published on June 11th, 2013 | by Rayne

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Pro-choice for women? Why not be pro-choice for men as well?

It’s interesting to note that some people who are pro-choice for women, seem to be anti-choice for men. This baffles me. I’ve mistakening assumed that if a person was pro-choice for women, then they would also be pro-choice for men.

This is obviously not the case so I’ve found out.

I’m pro-abortion. I’m pro-abortion in the sense that if a woman has made a choice about not wanting to go through with a pregnancy, she should have the right to choose an abortion. Most anti-choicers will misinterpret pro-abortion as “attempting to force every woman to have an abortion” which simply isn’t the case. We just simply believe is should be another option for women.

Just as walking away from a pregnant woman should be for men.

Oh stop looking so horrified.

Unless child rearing or getting pregnant is spoken about before hand, when a couple decides to have sex, they consent to sex and sex only. Going along with a pregnancy or supporting a pregnancy is not part of the deal. Pregnancy is a byproduct of sex between a man and woman, a byproduct that doesn’t have to be followed through on.

So if you’re pro-choice for woman, why wouldn’t you be pro-choice for men?

I look at it this way, if in some alternate universe, I was hetereosexual and wanted to have sex with a guy and he wanted to have sex with me – we’ve both consented to have sex. If I find out later that I got pregnant from having sex with that guy, we haven’t consented to be pregnant or support a pregnancy. If I make the choice about my body to not go through with the pregnancy – I should be able to make that choice and if they guy makes the choice to walk away from a pregnancy he didn’t sign up for – why should he be forced to pay thousands of dollars in supporting a child he doesn’t want? That’s as bad as attempting to force a woman through pregnancy by denying her access to an abortion.

Note: If the guy wants to keep the kid, it’s a different story. It would be my body and no-one but me can choose what to do with it. If he wants a kid and I don’t – either he’s going to have to go elsewhere or sign a fuckload of legal documents to say that he is going to be the sole supporter of the child and he is going to take sole custody.

I hate to inform you but men have rights and choices as well and not wanting to raise a kid should be one of them.

 

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3 Responses to Pro-choice for women? Why not be pro-choice for men as well?

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  2. choiceone says:

    I’m pro-choice on the issue of a woman continuing or ending a pregnancy and I’m also pro-choice on the issue of a man renouncing both rights and responsibilities of fatherhood if he wants to as soon as the woman knows she’s pregnant and informs him.

    However, I have actually worked out a scheme to make all possibilities regarding sex, pregnancy, bioparenthood, and legal parenthood gender equal. Here it is.

    Case 1: The woman gets pregnant and wants to continue the pregnancy and keep the child. She has to pay for additional food/clothing and medical care because of the pregnancy and childbirth.

    A. If the man wants to be the biological father, he should pay half the additional costs pregnancy incurs, be put on the birth certificate as the biological father, and pay child support. If the woman proves unfit as a mother, he should have the right to custody, and if she proves fit, he should have the right to visitation (she gets custody simply because breastfeeding for two months at a minimum provides necessary immunities for a child’s later good health).

    B. If the man does not want to be a biological father, he should pay the equivalent of half of the cost of the woman’s cheapest option for dealing with the pregnancy, i.e., an early abortion, together with any transportation and related costs related to access and follow-up care. He should be able to sign an agreement which keeps him off the birth certificate but will separately identify him as a sperm donor on a health record as necessary knowledge for health purposes for the child. He should not be liable to child support, but should not have any rights of “fatherhood” related to the child, either.

    Case 2. The woman gets pregnant and wants to continue the pregnancy but give up the child for adoption.

    A. If the man wants the woman to continue the pregnancy and agrees to the adoption, the Case 1 A proposal should apply for everything up through childbirth and birth certificate only. Neither is liable for child support.

    B. If the man wants the woman to continue the pregnancy but does not agree to the adoption, the Case 1 A proposal should apply for everything up through childbirth and birth certificate and he should have the right to custody. The woman should not be liable for child support because her choice was adoption and having no relation with the born child.

    C. If the man does not want the woman to continue the pregnancy, the Case 1B proposal should apply.

    Case 3. The woman gets pregnant and wants an abortion.

    Whether or not the man wants the woman to continue or end her pregnancy, she has a right to do either because it is her body alone that is affected by pregnancy. Hence, the man does not have a right to make the decision. But in this case, the Case 1 A proposal still applies.

    Case 4. Non-consensual sex leads to pregnancy.

    A. The man has raped the woman and she has gotten pregnant (we exclude here dubious statutory rape cases that are really consensual sex between a girl of, say, 16, and her 18 year old boyfriend) and he has been found legally guilty of the rape.

    This man has no rights to biological fatherhood, because that status would have been obtained by illegal means. He pays the equivalent of the costs incurred by the woman for her choice no matter what the choice is,including postpartum medical costs. The payment is made to a government office, not directly to the woman, who receives the funds from the government office. The man is not on the birth certificate, but is listed separately on a health record for necessary information for the health of the born child. He has no rights to visitation.

    If the government wants to make him liable to child support, it must do so via his payment to a government office which transfers the funds to the woman so that she never has to have contact with the man or feel the funds are coming from him.

    B. The woman has raped the man or used his sperm without consent to make herself pregnant and has been found legally guilty of doing so.

    This woman has obtained her pregnancy illegally. The man should not have to pay anything related to abortion, pregnancy, or childbirth. If the woman opts to give birth, she obtains her biological motherhood status illegally, so she should have no rights as a biological mother (except the optional right to breastfeed the child during the first two months for the sake of the future health of the born child).

    If the man wants to be the biological father, he should be on the birth certificate and he should have the right to sole custody or to give up the child for adoption. The woman should only be on the birth certificate if the man agrees, but could instead be identified in a separate health record for information relevant to the future
    health of the child. The woman should not have visitation rights.

    If the government wants to make the woman liable to child support, it must do so via her payment to a government office which transfers the funds to the man so that he never has to have contact with the woman or feel the funds are coming from her.

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